Therapy advices

As many of you may already know, I am a therapist who strive to give the best advices to my patients in need. This morning, two obnoxious couple came into my office and asked for my advice on their potentially hazardous marriage. The husband, calling himself Petruchio, explained the situation to me. He told me that he and his wife Kate are having trouble agreeing with each other because they had spent so much time arguing. The husband wanted the wife to be obedient and restrained from talking, but the wife argues back, saying that she has the right to do whatever she wants. Seeing this situation, I proceed to my job and advised them thoroughly.

I held a long therapist session with the two, and surprisingly they didn't seem annoyed. First, i started the session off by asking the couple some questions regarding their marriage. For example, I asked, "what are the main reasons that resulted in your arguments?", "How often were the fights?", and "Have you two thought of possible ways to fix your problems?". Their responses were simple and straight to the point. The main cause for their argument was the want for control between both parties, which means that both Petruchio and Kate wanted to dominate the conversation. Apparently, the couple fought every time when there are some controversies between their ideas. From what I have heard, the husband tried solving the problem by starving the wife and forcing to stay awake all night, and somehow this strategy worked effectively.

After interpreting the marriage situation, I came up with advices and future goals for Petruchio and Kate. I suggested to them that in order to have a peaceful time together, they should both give in to each other instead of always going at each other. Since I have heard that Kate is a shrewish wife, my advice for Petruchio is to ignore her whenever she starts to argue. This way, the husband won't need to participate in the argument and the wife will eventually step back. Another advice I gave is maybe do something they both liked, maybe like going to parties or visiting family members. there is really no need to contradict each other all the time when the couple shares similar ideas and opinions on things. In addition, there were some future goals, both short and long term, that I addressed to them. One short term goal for the couple is for them to try get along with each other with less arguments. The couple should also support each other, instead of always finding errors and mistakes in the other person. One long term goal for Petruchio and Kate to have is living a successful and happy life with positive memories instead of miserable ones.

Female's identity

As we dive deeper into shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew, it is apparent that female identity take a great role in the play. To begin, I feel like it's somewhat important for a woman to keep her name after marriage. Females should have the freedom to hold on to their names because it makes each female individual independent and unique from her husband. Often, wives are viewed by their husbands as properties and should be given the sam last name as the husband. However I feel like this belief is not fully true because there are many women out there who keep their own names after marriage. This kind of women show that they are independent to the control of their husband.

The truth is that women usually take on the last names of their husband instead of the other way around. The reason that wives usually hold to their husbands' last names is because men are still being viewed as the dominate and masculine figure and women are being viewed as the submissive and weak figure. To the current society, it will just be odd for a man to take on the last name of a woman. Like I said before, I think it will be fair for a woman to hold to her own name instead of adopting her husband's name.

the importance of Feminism

In William Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew, there is a interesting topic regarding feminism. To be honest, I consider myself to be a feminist to some degree simply because I think women should have equal rights as men both in public and private. The world is created for two genders not one, so it is very important to consider female's opinions and ideas in addition to that of men. The quote by Amy Poehler inspired me:

I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It means somebody's passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn't mind leading-Amy Poehler

I mean I certainly don't like to get bossed around by women, but as long as a woman is not too over the top, then am fine with the situation. I definitely agree with the second part of the quote which states that a woman being bossy is trying to achieve great success on par with men, and there is nothing wrong with doing so. Women should certainly be seen as men's equal and should be given the same opportunities as men. From a male's perspective, I see women as respected human beings who should be given the same rights as us males. However, I don't support women over dominating men because that will just be as unfair as men controlling women. There should be a balance between the two genders in society.